The Only Social Club

Treat Each Date as a Clean Slate

admin — Mon, 30 Aug 2010 11:28:31 +0000

When it comes to the single’s market there’s one thing that all or most daters (over the legal drinking age) have in common – they have all been on dates before, with other people.

Most of us have had prior relationships. Remember, and this is very important and take note that those prior relationships are in the past. Your date’s prior relationships and your prior relationships are all in the past.

A helpful hint is always to imagine that each first date as a clean slate. Sure, you may have had ex-boyfriends/girlfriends or in some cases maybe even ex-wives/husbands. But those relationships are now over and in the past and you should have moved on. Never mention or talk negatively about your past relationships on a first date. It can, in fact, be quite harmful.

Instead, your focus should be on the date as well as being in the present moment. Do not focus on negativity as you will invite negativity, so talk about the positive things that are happening in your life. What makes you happy? Talk about it! Fell happy, feel joy and share your joy. And, more importantly, dream aloud about what you’d like to see happen in the future.

Leave and save discussions of the past for if and when you get to know your date a bit better. Until then, leave that baggage behind, magine that you have a clean slate: no exes, no break-ups, no past relationships weighing you down.

Communications

admin — Sat, 31 Jul 2010 12:35:03 +0000

Work through the areas that you feel is sensitive to you with your partner. Why do think that there are still marriages that work and still going strong. Respect and understanding of each other is vital with one another. You cannot change him/her. Love them for who they are. Communication does play a key factor in the relationship.

Find the Love That’s Looking for You

admin — Tue, 29 Jun 2010 10:29:27 +0000

Love is a “hunger” we all want and feel through our longing to know someone to which we are drawn. Love understands that whatever we will agree to draw near to ensures .. given time..we will come to know it; and then transformed through either a relationship or a marriage of some sort, and we then become as one.

Relationship/Happiness

admin — Wed, 09 Jun 2010 18:23:03 +0000

In order for a relationship to work you need to have a relationship with you and you need to be happy with yourself. A relationship cannot make you happy. By having a relationship with yourself and been happy with you will help you in order to make the relationship grow and go from strength to strength, it is an added dimension in your life. Do not take your partner for granted in the relationship. The ingredients to making a relationship work and last is communication, honesty, respect, trust, love, laughter, sharing, fun, never to go to bed angry and to enjoy each other. Learn from each other in order to succeed and do not try and change the person.

How to tell if they are interested in you

admin — Mon, 31 May 2010 19:18:49 +0000

It’s really quite simple. There will be lots of clues, primarily given through body language. Don’t worry; you don’t have to get up close and check to see if their pupils are dilated. It’s much easier than that. The non-verbal signals are pretty much the same in both men and women. Here’s a quick list to help you gauge the chemistry clues:

Are they smiling at you often?
Do they compliment you?
Are they making lots of eye contact?
Are they leaning towards you?
Do they try to make contact? Perhaps by touching your arm or putting their arm behind your back to walk you forward?
Do they seem attentive and interested in what you are saying? Are they nodding a lot?
Do they make reference to doing something together in the future?

Lying, it’s an important part of Social Interaction

admin — Mon, 24 May 2010 12:17:08 +0000

Research has found that the most common lies that can be found in a………………….

Men’s Top 10 lies

1. I didn’t have that much to drink

2. Nothing wrong. I’m fine

3. I had no signal

4. It wasn’t that expensive

5. I’m on my way

6. No, your bum doesn’t look big in that

7. I’m stuck in traffic

8. Sorry I missed your call

9. You’ve lost weight

10. It’s just what I’ve always wanted

Women’s top 10 lies

1. Nothing wrong, I’m fine

2. I don’t know where it is. I haven’t touched it

3. It wasn’t that expensive

4. I didn’t have that much to drink

5. I’ve got a headache

6. It was on the sale

7. I’m on my way

8. Oh I’ve had this for ages

9. No, I didn’t throw it away

10. It’s just what I’ve always wanted

LOVE

admin — Mon, 24 May 2010 12:00:02 +0000

The most common thread with all human’s is that we all want love and we all want to be loved.

Celebrity Testimonial

admin — Wed, 12 May 2010 10:02:08 +0000

Vanessa Haywood (Celebrity, Actress, Model)

I assisted in helping Theo with getting the Johannesburg area up and running. The reason I decided to go into business with Theo was because I liked the concept and I had become all too aware of how difficult it was to meet new people and find a life partner in Johannesburg, especially with the lifestyles that we lead here! I had realised that there was a big need for this type of service, offering a Confidential matchmaking facility with Integrity where each member is screened before joining. There are so many different dating facilities in South Africa but none quite like this one! There is a big need for a professional matchmaker in Johannesburg – and I wanted to be it! The Only Social Club is not a names and numbers game but has to do with quality relationships and not quantity.

I would not hesitate to recommend this service to anyone as I believe in the core values and the need for professional assistance in finding the right partner in the concrete jungle that is Joburg.

xxxx

The most common dating mistakes

admin — Thu, 29 Apr 2010 13:40:24 +0000

Judging your date… “don’t judge a book by its cover.”
Having too high expectations for the date
Spilling your “history”
Talking too much
Getting Drunk

PERSONAL SERVICE

admin — Wed, 14 Apr 2010 08:58:27 +0000

A mistake many people make when they’re looking for someone to date is that they don’t first take a good look at themselves.If you’re not emotionally healthy, loving yourself from the inside out, you’ll have a hard time finding someone who is right for you.Get rid of the ego. Check in with yourself, make sure you like yourself, that you know what you want in a partner, and how you see your roles playing out. Then check in with your friends and family and say, ‘This is how I see myself. Is this what you see too? Do I have an accurate picture of myself?’

It’s crucial to first make an assessment of your own personal matters because it’s no good trying to unite two “broken people”.

That said, even if you do have it all together, it can still be difficult to meet someone. However, you have invested in, and hired, a professional matchmaker to help you.

I get to meet with clients face-to-face on a one-to-one basis. I go through a presentation, explaining the nature of the business, and then go through there personal details. My mission is to try and match them up with another member.

The Only Social Club has many success stories to tell.

We don’t do dinner. We want it to be casual with minimum pressure. We want you to sit down and have a drink or lunch. During this short time you can see if there is chemistry/intrigue/interest.

I always suggest seeing a person at least three times before making the decision to start a relationship. Remember, if you continue doing the same things you will get the same results, so change the tape recorder!

After each date, feedback is important so that The Only Social Club can see how the date went. If all went well, ask for that second date, then do dinner.